How Navigating Through Pain Can Make Us Bitter or Better

I've always had an unusual fascination with Grit and Resilience since reading Angela Duckworth's (American Academic, Psychologist and Author's) book called, "Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance" in my 20s. You can watch her TEDTalk here. Angela Duckworth writes about how grit and single-mindedness can and does often surpass the limitations of IQ (intelligence quotient) and/or inborn talent. This was fascinating to me at the time, when I had been practicing Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, learning early on that I was someone with a small stature (my niece is already taller than me...). Brazilian Jiu Jitsu taught me that we can become powerful, formidable physical forces using what we have in a strategic way. I learned how to use my small stature to my advantage, and learned to grapple and fight on the ground(s) of the martial arts gym.

Overall, what I learned during my teens and 20s is how to overcome hardship and challenge. I learned the powers of resilience and resourcefulness first hand, like many others I know. I know that hardship is inevitable and the stronger and more equipped I am to manage and overcome said hardships, the better I will be. The better we will be if we focus on teaching, supporting and overcoming hardship(s) collectively. Always remember, you are not alone in hardship(s) and challenge and that learning to navigate through the pain can either make us bitter, or better. Reach out to your community and trust that you have the skills and tools to get through.